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(Empowered Wealth Facilitator Glen Snyder retired last year after a 30 year career as a pastor.  As a biblical scholar, he currently teaches in the professional studies program at William Jessup University in Northern CA.  In his post below, Glen shares his observations and thoughts about a phenomenon that occurred during one of his recent classes.  It all started with a question about rejection – RN).

One of the interesting aspects of the program at William Jessup University is the way the educational experience is structured.  The students are assigned to groups.  They attend lengthy class sessions and participate in online forums together in their groups.  In the program, the students are called and literally become “cohorts”.  They get to know each other.

As an assignment, the students were asked to read the story of “The Woman at the Well”. The woman in this story is a Samaritan, an outcast ethnic group in ancient times.  As was their custom, Samaritan women would go to the well early in the day before it became too hot.  They would draw their family’s water for the day and socialize before returning home.  The woman in this story, because of her past, socially unacceptable behavior, is shunned by other women, her own people, and, thus, is an outcast among outcasts.  Out of shame, the woman chooses to go the well later in the day, alone.  She feels rejected.


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July 16th, 2015 by Addie K Martin

My Journey with The Clarity Experience

In order to set my intentions for the next few years of my life, I recently completed Empowered Wealth’s Clarity Experience. I used Module #6 in Empowered Wealth Connect to educate myself on the process. The module contained both videos and instructional materials that help me understand why the Clarity Experience is so important and how I could go about completing it.

In this month’s post, I’d like to walk you through my own journey with the Clarity Experience and explain how it helped me get crystal clear on what the next three years has in store for me and my husband Jeremy. This is a powerful exercise. It allowed me to envision the future exactly as I’d like it to be. It was empowering to live in my ideal future and clearly envision what it’s going to be like for us.

The purpose of the Clarity Experience is to develop a laser clear vision of what life will be like in three years from now. Lee Brower says that once you’re clear about what you’re doing and where you’re going, you can actually slow down time. Of course, being the young, busy professional that I am, that prospect appeals to me greatly. I have many different roles and responsibilities in my life and those take considerable time and effort on my part. However, when I was working on my Clarity Experience, I stripped away most of those and focused on the ones that were most vital to my overall life experiences.

The first step I took in the Clarity Experience was to very specifically lay out and detail what it is that I’d have to have happen in my life in three years, both personally and professionally, that’d make me feel like I’d made meaningful and significant progress in my life. This exercise was my favorite part of the whole experience. I was able to indulge myself in thinking of all of my hopes and dreams for the future. I wrote these in the present tense, as if these things had already come to pass. It was a great exercise, and one that I found quite valuable in clarifying what my next few years hold for me.

I dreamed really big because I have big dreams for my life and for Jeremy’s life. These are some of the highlights:

  • Traveling the world and working remotely
  • Feeling a sense of complete freedom
  • Absolutely loving life
  • A deep sense of excitement about life and what it holds
  • Impeccable health and fitness levels
  • Significant personal and professional growth
  • Robust income level that sustains our lifestyle and travel needs
  • Successful coaching business in my desired niche
  • Thriving writing career

In the Clarity Experience process, there’s a little twist. Like me, most people will have long lists full of goals, hopes, and dreams. In order gain clarity, the process asks that I simplify: of all the things I’d written about and crystallized, I needed to choose which of these I’d have, if I could only have one. For me, that choice was easy: traveling the world. If I really could only have one of the changes I’d dreamed up, I’d take traveling the world. The next step in the process is to assign that one achievement to the most appropriate quadrant in the Brower Quadrant. For me, traveling the world falls into my Experience Quadrant. Beyond that, the next step is to pick three more from my list, one for each of the remaining quadrants. Combined, these become the Four Keys. Below is the visualization of my Four Keys.

Addie K Martin-Four Keys

The idea here is that achieving those four goals will allow me to bring the rest of my goals to fruition. I can use these Four Keys as the guide for my next three years. The rationale here is that when I’ve achieved my Four Keys, most everything else on my list will happen as well.  I will have developed the confidence, the discipline, and the necessary know-how to make everything else happen. It’s quite easy for me to see how that’s completely possible. When I’m able to distill it all to what’s really, truly important to me, I’ve identified what’s essential in my life. That’s where the real power lies.

The very last part of this exercise was also very fun and enlightening for me. This whole process is really put into perspective by answering these two questions: Now that I’ve completed my Four Keys and have attained my goals, who am I? And further, what am I capable of achieving? For me, those answers are quite evident: I’m now a strong, competent, successful, and capable individual. I can run my own business and survive (and thrive) in a non-traditional life setting and environment. What’s further beyond that is that I’m now stronger and more resilient than I’d ever previously been in my life.

Of all the work that I’ve done through Empowered Wealth, the Clarity Experience has been the most fruitful for me. It’s given me a clear and full vision of what my life will look like in three years, and it’s provided a compass for me to use to get there. Armed with this knowledge, I’m now able to make the best possible decisions and take the most appropriate actions. I’ve removed the uncertainty and doubt that faced me previously, and I’ve gifted myself with a clear direction and purpose. In the end, that’s the most useful tool I could ask for.

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July 8th, 2015 by Ron Nakamoto

Everyone is Someone's Beloved Child

This episode of the "Everyone Matters Podcast", featuring Harvard's Amy Cuddy and author Simon Sinek, is focused on leadership and creating "an environment where people can be human". Reminiscent of the work of the Arbinger Institute, the Barry-Wehmiller team works on the premise that everyone is someone's beloved child. It's a very humanizing way to look at others and, as Cuddy and Sinek agree, it's the way we should be because it's our natural way of being.

What also caught my attention in this episode were comments by Simon Sinek at approximately the 21 minute mark of the 30 minute podcast. Sinek talks about the release of the hormone oxytocin when we engage in acts of generosity, which he describes as "time and energy given without expectation of anything in return". This definition of generosity is very similar to what Lee Brower defines as "Empowered Gratitude". Sinek goes on to say that oxytocin is also released when we receive or even witness acts of generosity. Why does this matter? Because, as Sinek says, oxytocin makes us "nicer, more generous, boosts our immune system, causes us to live longer, and it affects our brain so that we become better problem solvers." In other words, it makes us better humans.

Wow! Those are some very good reasons to be generous and helpful to others and to create environments where "people can be human".Sinek's way of thinking adds additional insights and understanding to not only the concept of Empowered Gratitude but also our concepts of Contribution as a resource and Living Legacy – creating a positive legacy daily through the way we are as human beings.


Everybody Matters Podcast: Amy Cuddy and Simon Sinek » Bob Chapman’s Truly Human Leadership | A Barry-Wehmiller blog
This week’s episode of our “Everybody Matters” podcast features a discussion betwee n two great thinkers who have become good friends of Barry-Wehmiller. Amy Cuddy, a Harvard Business School professor, has the second most watched TED talk in the world. She is a social psychologist whose first …

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“The researchers found that if any of the three extrinsic aspirations—for money, fame, or beauty—was very high for an individual relative to the three intrinsic aspirations, the individual was also more likely to display poorer mental health. For example, having an unusually strong aspiration for material success was associated with narcissism, anxiety, depression, and poorer social functioning as rated by a trained clinical psychologist…

In contrast, strong aspirations for any of the intrinsic goals—meaningful relationships, personal growth, and community contributions—were positively associated with well-being. People who strongly desired to contribute to their community, for example, had more vitality and higher self-esteem. When people organize their behavior in terms of intrinsic strivings (relative to extrinsic strivings) they seem more content—they feel better about who they are and display more evidence of psychological health.” – Edward Deci

Brian Johnson's video below reviews the book "Why We Do What We Do" by Edward Deci. After watching the video and reading the quote above by Edward Deci, I had a sense of understanding and satisfaction, knowing that the Empowered Wealth concept of "True Wealth", emphasizes intrinsic motivators (i.e., Core (family, health, faith, close relationships), Experience (personal growth, learning, wisdom), and Contribution (giving, contributing to the well-being of family, friends, community, and organizations). Brian Johnson says, that there's nothing wrong with seeking wealth as long as it's a byproduct of intrinsic drives. From an Empowered Wealth perspective, financial wealth viewed as a resource, potentially fuels True Wealth.

Edward Deci's work suggests to me that there's research that validates our approach.