This is one of +Lee Brower's favorite quotes. What caught my attention about the article below is that it attempts to explain how to "think what nobody has thought". While far from a step-by-step process (not that one is even possible), I think these ideas are useful. In particular, I found "pay attention to coincidences" and "look closely at contradictions" to be interesting. I would personally add "be aware of and at least temporarily suspend your own biases". For myself, I've found my biases to be the single most limiting factor that prevents discovery and learning. Mark Twain once said:
It ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble. It's what you know for sure that just ain't so.
How To Train Your Brain To See What Others Don’t, by Carolyn Gregoire Remember the last time you had an ‘aha’ moment? The pleasure of a new and profound insight can leave us with that feeling of freshness and awe at witnessing something for the very first time. It is a deeply satisfying in itself and needs no external rewards. Cognitive psychologist, Gary Klein researches the science behind these epiphanies and shares his findings so that we can cultivate habits that make our mind fertile for such insights and r…
Tim Ferriss published this post featuring the essay "The Shortness of Life" by Stoic philosopher Lucius Seneca. He was motivated by his awareness of people in his life fighting or dying from cancer. The timing and framing of this essay were for me profound.
I spent this past weekend with a old friend of mine who's battling cancer. Although I've read this essay before, Seneca's words really struck me this time. I talked with my friend at great length about what matters to him now. We used to play golf, go wine tasting, go fishing, and watch sports on television together. We stopped doing these things because we both got busy with our lives. We both allowed other things to become or seem more important.
Recently, I realized it had been 6 years since we had done anything together. Our children have grown up and left home, I've gotten divorced and moved to different parts of the country three times, and now he had been undergoing treatment for cancer.
What were we thinking? How have we been treating time? How have we been valuing each other? What really matters?
I was glad I made the effort to see him. It's going to make all the difference. He's a warrior; you'd be hard pressed to find anyone with a more positive attitude, given his circumstances. It was both a humbling and inspiring experience. It will make me a better person.
As I completed an all-day training for new Empowered Wealth Ambassadors last Friday, I was reminded of how the general population focuses on positive experiences and positive affirmations to lift their spirits in times of trouble or stress. In fact, as Glen Snyder mentions in this short video, positive focus is how Lee Brower begins his meetings and coaching experiences. But Lee also quickly goes deeper into positive focus, transforming positive experiences into a framework of Gratitude.
I like to remember this concept of converting positive focus into Gratitude by using the phrase "Play T.A.G.", where T.A.G. stands for "thank", "appreciate", and "give". By thinking of who I can thank, or what I appreciate, or how I might give back as a result of a positive experience, I can begin to transform that experience into Gratitude. Over time, this can become a habit which can then lead to a cultural shift within a family, small workgroup, or circle of friends. This can make a difference; this can be the beginning of being the change we want to see in the world.
This book, written as a modern business fable, develops a framework that The Arbinger Institute originally labelled "the box" but now calls an "Outward Mindset". This mindset, which concerns itself with "seeing people as people", is very complementary with The Empowered Wealth Mindset, as Lee Brower and I discuss in this video podcast. In fact, with Arbinger's Outward Mindset framework, Empowered Wealth's education, coaching and training programs align very well with Arbinger's in terminology and concepts. I will develop this idea further in a future post.