“Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it”
– George Santayana
Teaching kids the value of learning is a major focus of Lee Brower’s Life Coaching. In the video below, Lee tells the story of how he traveled to Mongolia with his son and received a lesson that continues to reveal new insights.
Zolo’s comment about his thoughts and his knowledge having no value unless he shares them reminds me of an African proverb: “When an elder dies, a library burns down.” How many of us take the time to distill our experiences into stories that teach lessons? How much potential knowledge and wisdom is lost because we don’t take the time to create and share these stories?
“If we learn from our past, then we can create our future”
Lee Brower is a leadership guru to many of his clients and followers. One of his most fundamental principles is to lead by example; to be a person who’s worthy of being followed. This idea is captured in the following video, which tells the story of a father and his son.
Word Root of Gratitude: The Latin word gratus, meaning “pleasing” or “thankful,” gives us the root grat. Words from the Latin gratus have something to do with being pleasing or being thankful. To ingratiate yourself is to make others feel thankful for something you’ve done. To feel grateful is to feel thankful for something. Gratitude is a feeling of thankfulness. To congratulate is to express how pleasing someone’s success is.
Here is what one renowned leader of the 20th century had to say about gratitude:
As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.
-John F. Kennedy
Lee Brower often reminds us that an event or an experience is not the final outcome. Instead, our responses to events are what define the outcomes. Lee also frames our ability to give unconditionally without expecting anything in return as the highest expression of Gratitude and the best way to be “In Gratitude”. For Mark, paying for a stranger’s meal at a drive-through in response to that person’s act of anger was an example of being “In Gratitude” rather than reacting to anger with anger. In so doing, Mark made an indelible impression on his son, demonstrating that it’s our actions, not necessarily our words, that are the greatest influence we have within our families, our workplace, and our communities.
Lee Brower has become a guru to many people because of the Gratitude Rock. When the movie “The Secret” first came out a decade ago, the short story featuring Lee and the Gratitude Rock was one of the movie’s most popular segments. In the video below, Lee Brower retells the part of the story where he serendipitously came across a special rock during one of the darkest times in his life. Vowing to be more grateful for the blessings in his life, the act of carrying a rock became a reminder that there is always something one can be grateful for. As Lee explains, Gratitude transformed his life as well as the lives of many people whom he’s touched with his work.
Lee Brower continues to learn and advance his thinking on Gratitude. He’s developed a model called the Four Levels of Gratitude which builds on an awareness of ingratitude within ourselves and others to inspire more grateful thoughts and behavior. He’s identified Social Gratitude – saying “please” and “thank you” – and Appreciation as essential expressions of Gratitude. Ultimately, Lee promotes unconditional giving without expectation of anything in return as the expression of the highest form of Gratitude.
Lee Brower now reminds the people he works with and coaches to “Go B.I.G.” – begin in Gratitude – by thinking of the Four Levels of Gratitude. He’s developed a journal that has become a primary tool to develop and reinforce a daily Gratitude practice.
Lee Brower is a real guru and life coach to kids coming out of the projects. In this video, he tells a story about a troubled young man who rediscovered his self-esteem and another young man who stepped up to leadership when the opportunity presented itself.
Here's a quote directly from Lee Brower: "We can elevate as leaders when we stop putting junk on our self-esteem and find ways to help others take the junk off of their self-esteem."