For most of my adult years, I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life. I held several jobs in my first career (hospitality management) only to move out of that field completely after five short years. In my second career (advertising), I found little more satisfaction. I left that to try my hand at blogging. It sounded interesting, and I can cook, so I thought being a food blogger would be easy, fun, and fulfilling. Sadly, I was wrong again.
Once I realized early last year that food blogging wasn’t for me, I knew I was long overdue in figuring out what I actually wanted to do with my life. I’d finally grown dissatisfied with not having a larger vision for my life and my career. I was ready to figure it all out but I needed a plan to succeed. Empowering questions helped me to get started.
I started by simply asking myself, “Can I figure out what I want to do with my life?” When I saw it so simply stated, I realized that “yes”, I could figure out what I wanted. Just because I’d never known before didn’t mean that the answer was destined to escape me forever. In fact, because I had committed subconsciously, I just knew that the answers would eventually come.
From that point, I was committed to the process. The next step for me was to create an action plan. I next asked myself “How might I figure out what I want?” Framing my question in this manner allowed me to start figuring out what I wanted. When I framed the task from the perspective of “how might I…” I began to explore options with actions attached to them. Formulating a real plan for figuring out what I wanted to do in life was huge for me.
A large part of that plan to was figuring out the answers to what I saw as life’s important questions. I’d never taken the time to do that before, and I realized that was the crux of my problem. When I started the discovery process with “How might I figure out what I want,” I realized that the next step was getting clear on questions such as who am I; where do I want my life to go; what will make me happy; and how can I attain peace? These were not easy questions for me to answer, but I was fully committed and determined to succeed.
As I started seriously asking myself those questions, I gained clarity. I journaled the answers to these questions, and I also started paying attention in life. I noticed what lit me up. I began to observe when something piqued my curiosity or conversely, turned me off completely. I formed opinions and had thoughts on things like: What do I really want in life? How do I like spending my time? What fulfills me?
For so long, I simply hadn’t known the answers to these questions. I’d frequently found myself longing for more but didn’t know how to fix it or what would satisfy me. However, once I sat down and asked myself two simple, empowering questions (“Can I figure out what I want?” and “How might I figure out what I want?”), I was able to draw a road map that led me to determining what I wanted and what was important to me.
So where am I now? That’s easy: I discovered me, Addie K. Martin, a writer and creativity coach. I help people tap into their creative desires via my writing and my coaching practice. I love to travel and prefer to live simply. What makes me happiest is spending time with my husband Jeremy outdoors, preferably in nature. Living this way brings me happiness, peace, and satisfaction, and that’s really what I wanted all along.