July 23rd, 2012

If This Were the Last Day of Your Life, What Would You Regret?

By Ron Nakamoto

Bronnie Ware, An Australian palliative nurse, recently wrote a book called “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying – A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing”.

The top five regrets of people dying according to Ware’s study are:

1.  I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

“This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled.  Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.”

2.  I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”

3.  I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”

4.  I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”

5.  I wish that I had let myself be happier.

“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”

Reference: http://www.inspirationandchai.com/Regrets-of-the-Dying.html

I would regret not spending more time with my only child, my teenage son (Bronnie Ware’s regret #2).  I’ve spent much of his childhood fully engaged in my work and building businesses, much like our entrepreneur clients.  When we first start working with our clients, many have been so driven by their work, that they bare notice that they aren’t truly engaged with many of the people who really matter in their lives.  In this video, Lee Brower describes just such a situation and then follows that up with a description of how we can shift, using Empowered Wealth concepts of capture, withdrawal, and the Family Empowered Treasury.

If this were the last day of your life, what would you regret?  What are you willing to do about it?

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